Do you ever feel an ache deep inside that you can’t quite name? It nags at you, quietly urging you to listen, yet instead of facing it, you find ways to distract yourself. Shopping sprees, endless scrolling, binge-watching, vacation planning, or nights out with friends become temporary fixes. They’re quick hits of dopamine, fleeting moments of satisfaction that fade as fast as they come.
I know that cycle all too well.
Retail therapy is a seductive distraction. Treating yourself to something shiny and new feels wonderful—for a moment. But shopping can never fill the void we feel inside. That void is longing for something far deeper than a purchase: it’s longing for unconditional self-love.
My Journey: Shopping for Happiness
As a child, I loved shopping trips with my mom. They were magical outings to the glamorous Hudson’s Bay department store, where marble bathrooms with knee-operated faucets, glittering mirrors, and sweet little bags of candy felt like treasures.
Looking back, I realize that these trips were more than a way to pass the time—they were a distraction.
My mother was a brilliant woman. She earned her pilot’s license in the 1940s, entered university at just sixteen, and defied expectations by delaying marriage until she was 29. But despite her achievements, the societal barriers of her time held her back. Careers for married women were scarce, and although she poured love into raising me, she numbed her unfulfilled dreams with shopping and, sometimes, alcohol.
Unconsciously, I inherited her pattern of filling emotional voids with distractions.
Over the years, I repeated that pattern whenever life felt heavy. I bought a new car. I left my marriage. I switched jobs. I moved. I did anything to avoid the ache inside me. But nothing truly worked, because I wasn’t addressing the root cause.
The ache persisted because I was ignoring its message: I’d blocked my own source of unconditional self-love.
The Childhood Sponge
From the moment you’re conceived until about age seven, you’re like a sponge, soaking up the emotions, beliefs, and energies of the people around you. These early experiences create subconscious patterns that shape your thoughts, behaviours, and life choices.
Hurtful comments, limiting beliefs, and emotional baggage absorbed during those formative years don’t just disappear—they become trapped in your energy body, shaping how you see yourself and the world.
For many of us, those early experiences create what I call the seven foundational fears. These fears—rooted in trapped emotional baggage—run quietly in the background, influencing everything from our relationships to our career choices. And here’s the kicker: most of that emotional baggage isn’t even yours to carry.
The Void and the Power of Love
The ache you feel, the void you try to fill with shopping or other distractions, isn’t about needing more things. It’s about needing more love—specifically, self-love.
Unconditional self-love is the key to healing that ache because love fills the void in a way nothing else can. When you clear away the emotions that block self-love—those trapped hurts, limiting beliefs, and ingrained fears—you unlock a wellspring of joy and fulfillment that no purchase can match.
Shopping gives you a quick dopamine hit, but it doesn’t heal the deep patterns created in childhood. Clearing those patterns does.
Why Clearing Emotional Baggage Matters
Clearing the emotions and fears that block self-love is like decluttering your energetic space. When you release what isn’t yours, you make room for the light of unconditional love to shine through.
Your trapped emotions, shaped by experiences and beliefs absorbed as a child, don’t define you. They’re not permanent. They’re patterns, and patterns can be rewritten.
When you clear the blocks to self-love, you:
Reconnect with your true self—the infinite, joyful being you were always meant to be.
Release the weight of other people’s beliefs and emotions that no longer serve you.
Rediscover inner peace and clarity, creating space for lasting joy.
How to Begin
If you’re ready to stop shopping for happiness and start creating it within yourself, I can help.
Through my book, guided journals, and Bespoke Emotion Reset, I’ve developed tools to help you release the trapped emotions and fears keeping you stuck. You can clear the blocks to unconditional self-love and build a new foundation of joy and freedom. When you clear your emotional baggage, you are free to change your perceptions about who you are! Fall in love with yourself. That is all I ask anyone to do.
Here’s how you can get started:
🌟 Buy my book to learn how emotions shape your life—and how to clear them.
📝 Explore my 30-Day Guided Journals to dive deeper into self-reflection and chakra healing.
The ache inside you is a call to action. It’s your soul reminding you that you’re more than your patterns, more than your past, and far more than what you’ve been taught to believe about yourself.
Clear the clutter. Reclaim your joy. And fill the void with the love that only you can give yourself.
Your journey to self-love starts here. Will you answer the call?
XO,
Celia
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